On gender as a spectrum
The point of "gender is a spectrum" was never that one's gender can sit somewhere between male and female (but sure, that's an option), and neither does it say anything about how many poles or dimensions gender have.
The point was, is, and always will be that gender is continuous. Gender is not a finite set. Gender is infinite. Gender is not countable.
masculinity, hot take after an overdose on math
"Masculinity" is a meta-trait.
* People can have traits that distinguish them from other people.
* Two people with the same trait never express it identically; ergo, a trait is actually set of trait-expressions
* Masculinity describes a subset of such a trait-expression (for some traits), i.e. masculinity is a property that distinguishes trait-expressions from each other.
Okay, I want to try to focus my spare-time-project-energy for the coming months.
I will do my very best to restrain myself to three projects:
1. Getting #GardenGame to a minimal playable state, so y'all can start making small virtual gardens. I'm not good at graphics, so keep expectations low for the first release.
When I think of a future with Open Social Media, I imagine three pillars.
1) Microblogging (ActivityPub), for sharing thoughts with strangers, ephemeral community building, and broad+global reach.
2) Forum / Stable Community (no good solution yet, AFAIK), for discussing, planning, buying/selling locally. All within a distinct group of people, membership of which can be managed.
3) Peer2Peer (Scuttlebutt?), for talking directly to friends, family, nearby people, and easily sharing files.
As now is the time of year when elderflowers bloom, it would be good for some related folklore.
In folklore Elder trees tended to be know for associations the faeries, often said to mark the homes or portals of faeries.
In Manx and Norse folklore it was believed the spirit of the tree would manifest as an old woman, and it was important to ask this spirit's permission before cutting off any branches or flowers, lest it result in bad luck.
In English folklore the elder was believed to repel malicious magic and witches.
re: salty, pinephone, techbros
as an aside, wanna know where I've never seen a "works for me" thrown out as a response to an earnestly expressed problem?
on the mailing list for the rc2014 z80-based retrocomputing platform. in fact, the participants of that list go to great lengths to try and help walk through any necessary troubleshooting with all who come looking for help.
you may ask why it's different in that venue, but I personally believe it's because the platform attracts folk who've already realized that it's not possible to predict all the failure modes of a reasonably complicated machine, in soft or hard wares, so treating folk like you're sure they're wrong without examining the case is just silly.
Instead of: "I usually hate [thing], but I liked this!"
...try: "This has given me a new appreciation of [thing]!"
Namely because the person who made the thing probably likes it a lot themselves, assuming it wasn't made for external purposes (a commission, job, etc.), and it kiiinda sucks hearing people dump on stuff you enjoy in a sideways manner.
a fantasy writer who sure has seen this before
Politeness theory, wikipedia link
Repeat after me, fellow white cishet people and neuronormatives: Other people are autonomous, and imposing on their time for explanations is risky.
There is a specific kind of politeness specifically keyed to alleviating that risk, and most likely you'd default to it if the person you were asking was highly privileged.
Do the same with the underprivileged. Treat them as you would an senior, high-status member of your own cultural/professional group. Listen.
Is there space on your homestead for one without youth and vigor
Is there room in your syndicate for the one who rocks and shouts
Does your committee have time for the one who stutters and struggles
Do these tiny homes come with ramps and aides
Will this new utopia hold space for us
Where do the elders sit
Where do the strange ones live
Where is the quiet place
Where we can go to mourn ourselves and others lost
Yo, wanna see some gay cyborg DJ who plugged himself into synth? This is your lucky day!
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Which partially explains why it's still poisoned in the so called United States of America.
Addendum: turns out the dinosaur accent completely obscures my British accent so Grandad earnestly asked me if I was French, when I said "oh we're both British but he's been studying", he clapped and said "it's good that you have him to translate for you, he does a good job! You should learn French too, he can teach you"
Anyway Bilingual Grandad and French Grandson are my new favourite customers and they were only here for half term.
turning 30, creative output
If famous people have made masterpieces before they turn thirty, that just means it takes less than thirty years to learn how to make a masterpiece.
And since I'm almost thirty, I'm very likely to have at least thirty years more in front of me - so even if I was starting from scratch and zero skills now, I should be able to create a masterpiece before I'm 60.
That's kinda uplifting in an obscure kind of way.
Parent, Feminist, Softwaremaker - in that order
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